Why I Start All My 1:1s with this Question

If you’re not taking your 1:1s seriously, you’re doing it wrong.

If you’re a manager, regardless of whether you’re brand-new, have decades of experience, manage one person or a team of a hundred, continuously developing effective 1:1 skills are vital to your success and that of your team.

1:1s are a huge opportunity for you and your direct report, but most often, people fail to make most effective use of them — they use 1:1s to give project updates, assign work, or because they feel they’re just supposed to have a 1:1 with their direct report or manager. However, in a truly effective system, you don’t need much synchronous time to assign or delegate tasks or provide project updates. The best use of a 1:1 is to connect on higher level issues and problem-solving that cannot be effectively addressed asynchronously.

To me, 1:1’s are best suited for the following: identifying work priorities, unblocking complex issues, improving communication, getting data from deeper questions, and identifying how to ensure success. While responsibility for the success of a 1:1 meeting lies both with the manager and the direct report, I will write today from the perspective of the manager. Here’s how to get the most out of your 1:1s with your direct reports, and why you should think about your direct reports differently.